My future husband...

Well this is an exciting prompt.

My personality is most like:

- Elizabeth = for her rebelliousness
- Elinor = her ability to think about things in a mature way, how she is sensible, humble, and how she takes care of her family
- Jane = her shy/interrelatedness at times (though I am much more talkative)

My future husband's personality would have to be:

-Darcy = his ability to think about things in such a deep and interesting way
- Bingley = for his charismatic personalty, ability to talk easily in big crowds and his fun loving spirit (he always seems like he is smiling and happy)
- Edward = his ability to really listen to someone and offer good advice or comfort
- Brandon = his need to protect Marianne from people like Willoughby

I think it would be a combination between all of these men. I am more like an Elizabeth character now and I might be attracted to a guy like Darcy, or Bingley. I'm not really sure which one I would pick it would really have to depend upon which one I had a stronger connection with in the long run and our ability to be comfortable with each other. I would need to be with someone who is a little extroverted and maybe have a little bit of charisma. Someone that makes me laugh and I can be sarcastic with. I would also want them to be able to talk to a large group of people easily or in a natural/comfortable way, so that when we are in mixed company it wouldn't be awkward or embarrassing.

I would never be attracted to a guy that is arrogant, conceited, all about himself, too quiet or trying to show off in some way about how much they had. I would want someone who is honest and humble, who doesn't care about worldly things but tries to do things for other people without expecting something in return.

Willoughby vs. Wickham

Willoughby

• seduces a young woman
• gets her pregnant and bolts
• lies about this to Marianne
• tries to be overly affectionate to Marianne
• competes with Colonel Brandon and tries to create rumors about him
• the only thing that he really wants is to have sex with Marianne (it seems)
• he leads on poor Marianne who is both innocent and oblivious to what is going on

Wickham

• tries to seduce Darcy's sister Georgiana into marrying/eloping with him
• doesn't get the opportunity to get Georgiana pregnant (thankfully) and bolts
• lies about this to Elizabeth Benet
• tries to get Elizabeth on his side by giving his "side" of the story
• competes with Darcy and spreads lies about him
• all he wants is to flirt with a beautiful girl and then ditch her for someone else
• he is charismatic and seems to go after the girls with low self esteem who make up for it by being flirtatious.

I think the lesser of the two evils in this scenario has to be Wickham. Willoughby is the worse one here. I mean he got some poor woman pregnant, bolted and now here he is again trying to seduce Marianne. He seems older and has more experience in the world with woman and having sex and he seems to pry on the younger women like Marianne. I think he is the more dangerous one. Wickham in contrast is calmer. He seems to want to be in the companionship of young girls that are beautiful so that he can make out with them. He seems a lot less scary than Willoughby. See Wickham tried to seduce Georgiana but when Darcy stepped in to protect his younger sister Wickham backed off, bolted and left her alone. When Willoughby is trying to seduce Marianne everyone around her including Colonel Brandon try and protect her from him, but he is persistent and doesn't give up or go away. I think that is more dangerous than anything Wickham could have done, as that kind of goes into the category of being slightly obsessive and possessive. It is kind of creepy, at least to me. The major problem with both Willoughby and Wickham is that they seem nice (they are certainly handsome, tall, and charismatic), but there is something that is slightly off about both of them. Willoughby wants to have sex with any woman he can seduce and then leave her to become destitute. Wickham wants to go after a woman's fortunes and then leave them with nothing. Both have similar goals but Willoughby's motives are a lot more aggressive and violent.

The characters in Northhanger Abbey being aloof?

James and Isabelle, Catherine and John

The characters in Northhanger Abbey seem to be unaware of each other's feelings. I don't think this is because they are trying to deny the reality of what is going on, but that they are in a way unaware of the deeper feelings between each other. For example when Catherine likes John he has no clue how she feels about him. He wouldn't know how she felt unless she told him, then his perception of her and his interaction with her might change. I had this happen to me recently. I have liked this guy for 2 years now and I have been patiently waiting for him. The other day we hung out and then the next time I saw him I told him how I felt and he said that he liked me as well, but that he didn't know for sure if I did indeed like him. This could be the same thing for the characters. They might sense an intimate connection, but they don't want to get hurt so in order to protect their inner feelings they try to avoid the reality of the situation until they know for sure that both parties feel the same way.